Cross-Posted from My Blog
Sometimes, despite our best efforts and intentions, magick doesn’t work in a situation. Especially situations where you’re influencing other people. Even seasoned magicians have this problem at times (though most likely won’t admit it). I’ve learned over the years how to tell if the magick I’m considering is going to work or not, and I pick and choose my magickal battles carefully. You should, too.
One of the big failing points in magick is the realm of doing money and love magick for other people. Doing magick for other people requires that person’s permission AND follow-through. Sometimes you’re better off not doing magick for certain people because it’s wasted time and effort on your part. It’s up to you to gain the wisdom to know when magick can help, and when to walk away. I’ve thrown together a few scenarios here to illustrate what I mean –
Money Magick: I have a friend who is constantly out of work. I’ve done magickal work for her and it’s always resulted in job interviews, and oftentimes actual jobs, but those jobs rarely last beyond a month or two. The problem here isn’t my magick. My magick is only the temporary boost needed to bring the opportunities to my friend. After that, my role (and the role of the magick) ends, and it’s up to the person you’ve done the work for. If they are continually self-sabotaging, or can’t deal with their co-workers, or just don’t like working, all the money and job magick in the world won’t help them. Some people could win a 15 million dollar lottery tomorrow and be broke by the weekend if they have poor money management skills. It’s just how some folks are and sometimes the magician needs to accept that fact and move on. Without the participation of the person you’re working for, in actively trying to help themselves (including changing destructive habits), you cannot help them.
A better solution in many cases like this, where you’re doing financial magick for people who self-sabotage, is to do a rite to help them gain the skills they need to cope with co-workers, or motivate them toward the want to work. Throwing opportunities at people who won’t take them is akin to beating a dead horse.
Love Magick: I have had numerous friends (and complete strangers) over the years come to me looking for love spells, and I’ve turned them down. I’ve even turned down some soulmate work request. In order for a love connection to happen, the person you’re working for needs to actually leave their house, and at least bathe on a regular basis. It requires self-confidence and social intelligence on some level – and that can leave some people out of the loop. Instead of wasting your efforts on a person who likely won’t follow through on love magick due to poor self-esteem, poor hygiene, or social awkwardness, try tailoring your work toward building the person’s self esteem, or inspiring them to take better care of themselves, or helping them into more social situations.
Magick gone bad – goes bad for many reasons, and it’s up to the magician to find out why one thing works, and another doesn’t. Sometimes you have to dig down and find the root of a problem before you can solve it. Every time we use magick to solve a problem (whether high magick or low magick), it’s a puzzle that needs to be put together precisely. Now I’m not saying your magick won’t work on these people at all, it’s just that the results are usually short lived and these types of people will find themselves in the same situation again after too long. Rarely is magick black or white, or as simple as casting one spell and the other person’s fortune is changed forever. When it doesn’t work – there’s always a good reason why. If you find the reason, you can address the REAL issue. (And yes, this goes for magick you do for yourself, too. If it’s not working – there’s a reason and you need to find it.)
This, of course, brings up the discussion of discernment and what we should be using magick for to begin with. I know people who will “whip out their wands” for every tiny little thing in life. I know people who can’t make a decision without a divination first. I know people who, whenever you share your minor life difficulties with them, suggest a spell to solve it. Believe it or not – I’m not one of those people. You don’t want magick or divination to become a crutch. I guess I’m more earthy and practical (earthy part of water, with an air/water mix in my magickal houses). I believe that one should only use magick for the bigger stuff. The self work, the career change, for home protection, etc… And yet I still have homeowners insurance, coping skills to weather big changes, and the ability to self-analyze outside of magick. I could probably do just fine solving my own problems without the help of magick, but I enjoy the insight, wisdom, and quick opportunities magick brings with it. It also helps me focus because I’m high-strung.
Magick works best for self-motivated, confident, assertive, and driven individuals. It works even better if you’re all of those things, enjoy solving problems, AND are creativity-minded. So what magickal problem are you going to look at from a different angle? Which battles will you choose?
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